what will they think?
For the first time after months of anticipating changing my hours, I am worried. I found out last night that E told his parents that I was taking a day off a week. Oh no. What if they think that I’m having a mental breakdown and can’t handle myself? What if they assume this means I can’t handle anything? What about the people I work with - they know I’m under a lot of stress at work, and now they see me taking a day off a week - what if they think I’ve cracked and going crazy?
With new people that don’t know anything about the situation, its easy to say Yes, I’m lucky enough to have 4 day weeks. That doesn’t bother me.
For myself, I don’t know what to think - if I had continued on a 5 day week, I might really have gone batty. This is a solution so I didn’t have to quit. But I don’t know how to explain that gracefully to the people who question it. :sigh: I know, I shouldn’t care what others think. But I do. Especially my in-laws, who aren’t here to see the situation on a day-to-day basis, and now might think even less of me, and be telling their friends that their daughter-in-law is unable to handle her stress :sob: They are coming to visit the weekend after next. I am worried now, and I wasn’t until last night.
Comments
*HUGS* I feel for you, I go through the same thing with my mother-in-law. She hasn’t liked me since days 1 and I gave up trying to please her. You needed to do this for you, to better yourself no one else. They have no reason to look bad on you. if they can’t see that you are a great person, then thats on them, not you. Hang in there, I think that they will understandthe situation. *HUGS*
Posted by: Heather | September 19, 2001 08:19 AM
Kristine, you have GOT TO relax
I think its wonderful that you are working four-day weeks! My parents would think it was super if *I* could work four-days weeks - they know how stressful my job is.
If E hasn’t already explained to your in-laws how stressful your job is, then YOU should.
But most importantly, you need to stop worrying about what other people think, and worry about what is best for YOU. Its time to be a little selfish now.
Posted by: Shawn | September 19, 2001 08:47 AM
of course, none of us should care what others think of us, but i think we all do to some extent.
but i think you should look at it - not as something you HAD to do to preserve your sanity (even though it was in some ways) - but as a great opportunity to get to do so many of the things that so many people dream about. time for yourself, time to be creative, time to take better care of your home and family,
who could argue that those are such good things.
you are such a wonderful girl - don’t let this get you down on your fun and special day!
i love you! (and sorry for the novel
Posted by: zal | September 19, 2001 08:48 AM
Thank you, girls. I know that I shouldn’t care what they think, but its hard sometimes. I took a nap, and I’m feeling better about everything as a whole now. And waking up to your notes really helped. Thank you.
Posted by: kristine | September 19, 2001 09:14 AM
Sweetie.. they love you. I’m sure they will understand and don’t worry what others think! You just do what you have to do to take care of you!
BIG HUGS
Posted by: Gina | September 19, 2001 09:34 AM